Gifts for Him: Intimate Gift Ideas Beyond the Obvious
Men are famously hard to shop for, and intimate gifts are no exception. The good news: the best gifts for him are usually the ones that bring the two of you closer. Here’s how to choose.
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Think "for us," not just "for him"
The most appreciated intimate gifts for men are often the ones you’ll enjoy together. They send a clear message: I want more of us.
A couples toy he’ll actually use with you
Many toys today are designed for two. Some come as paired sets, where one device responds to the other, even at a distance. Others are controlled from a phone, so he can hold the remote, or hand it to you.
- For long distance: synced pairs, where each partner feels what the other does.
- For nights out: a discreet wearable for you, the phone in his pocket. It’s exactly the scene Julie and Marc play out at the captain’s dinner in The Cruise, an episode of our Julie & Marc series on swingersex.ca.
Overview based on manufacturer info, not a hands-on test · partner links
Explore Kiiroo · Compare Lovense · Our full guide to app-controlled toys
Two Kiiroo toys for him
Keon 2 Pre-order
For: Him · solo, couples, long distance
Control: FeelConnect app, Bluetooth and WiFi; private FeelConnect session with a partner’s toy
- Pro: Syncs in real time with a partner’s toy, wherever you both are
- Pro: Follows interactive videos and VR in real time
- Pro: Up to 3 hours on battery, or unlimited when plugged in (USB-C)
- Con: On pre-order: shipping expected Dec. 2026 – Jan. 2027, according to kiiroo.com
Price: see kiiroo.com (it changes often)
Keon 1
For: Him · solo, couples, long distance
Control: FeelConnect app: speed and stroke length; a private session link for a partner’s toy
- Pro: Syncs with a partner’s toy, anywhere
- Pro: Follows interactive videos and VR
- Pro: Up to 230 strokes per minute
- Con: Not waterproof
Price: see kiiroo.com (it changes often)
Four Lovense toys for him
Max 2
For: Him · solo, couples, long distance
Control: Lovense Remote app; Toy Sync: controls other Lovense toys, syncs with Nora at any distance
- Pro: 360° vibrations and contractions
- Pro: Textured sleeve
- Pro: Battery: 95 to 215 min
- Con: Weight: 750 g
- Con: IPX6 water-resistant
Price: see lovense.com (it changes often)
Gush 2 Motion
For: Him · solo, couples, long distance
Control: Lovense Remote app; Toy Sync: can control other Lovense toys
- Pro: Hands-free: vibrates and oscillates
- Pro: Stretch-to-fit silicone wings and adjustable band
- Pro: IPX7 waterproof
- Con: Battery: 70 to 110 min depending on intensity
- Con: 75-min charge
Price: see lovense.com (it changes often)
Edge 2
For: Him · solo, couples, long distance
Control: Lovense Remote app: prostate and perineum controlled separately
- Pro: Dual motor, prostate and perineum
- Pro: Bendable, adjustable neck
- Pro: IPX7 waterproof
- Con: Battery: 65 to 130 min depending on intensity
Price: see lovense.com (it changes often)
Diamo
For: Him · solo, couples, long distance
Control: Lovense Remote app, nearby or at a distance over the internet
- Pro: Remote-controlled vibrating cock ring
- Pro: IPX7 waterproof
- Pro: 2.5 to 3 hours of continuous use
- Con: Not a Toy Sync controller toy
Price: see lovense.com (it changes often)
A massage kit for two
Warming oils, a candle and a short how-to guide. It’s one of the easiest gifts to give and one of the most used. Bonus: it’s a gift that comes with your time.
A toy just for him
If you’re shopping for something personal, look for body-safe materials, easy cleaning and a design made for comfort. Simple and well made beats complicated.
At Intimatify (ships from the US)
Arcwave Ion 2
For: Him · him, solo or during foreplay
Control: Buttons; Autopilot with 3 programmes
- Pro: Pleasure Air: air pulses on the frenulum
- Pro: 10 intensities, starts on skin contact (Smart Silence)
- Pro: Twist-to-open for easy cleaning
- Con: No app or remote control
Price: see intimatify.com (it changes often)
LELO TOR 3
For: Him · him, for vibration shared by both of you
Control: Button or the LELO app (Bluetooth)
- Pro: Vibrating ring: both partners feel the vibration
- Pro: 8 patterns, customisable in the app
- Pro: Extra-soft silicone, fits all sizes
- Con: Bluetooth app: within range only
Price: see intimatify.com (it changes often)
The gift he’ll remember most: a night, planned
Book the restaurant. Reserve the hotel room in your own city. Choose the dress code. Then let him discover what you’re wearing underneath.
No product needed: the plan is the gift.
On a budget
Dare dice, a couples card game or a silk blindfold make great small gifts. See our gifts under $50.
Discreet delivery
Plain, unbranded boxes from every store we recommend. In Canada, we send you to stores that ship from inside the country, so there are no surprise customs fees. More on discreet shipping.
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